Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Negativity, you're exhausting....

Can I vent for a sec?

I have learned to see the positive in everything around me (well, I think I have always done this, but lately I seem to be doing it more). I like positive, happy people, things, ideas, etc.

But lately, especially thanks to social networks, I realize, even more, that sooooo many people stay in the negative. It's not the "dark" side, but it might as well be. I read people harping on the bad things  - in their lives, or ideas, religion, political views, etc, that they do not agree with - and to be frank, it's exhausting to read....over and over and over and over again.

I understand we all have bad days, or we feel strongly about something, and need to vent. By all means, vent away - keeping it inside is unhealthy. And having strong opinions and ideas is a very good thing! With people like you, with these strong convictions, things have gotten accomplished in this world. Lives have become better, cures have been found, change has occurred in our laws, and people have flourished to become the best they can be. 

But there's a difference between harping and complaining, and actually ACTING on your views. And many are just too lazy to ACT. I think they just like to hear themselves, or want to bring everyone else down, or are just looking for a reaction. If something, or someone, brings out negativity in you, and you find yourself complaining, and harping on the subject, DO SOMETHING about it! Figure out how to fix it, then let it go, and leave it behind.  Consumed by these thoughts will only make YOU more negative. And negativity results in unhappiness...for you AND those around you. And many don't want to be around this negativity...PLUS, nothing is accomplished.

Years ago, I had the unfortunate experience of losing friends because I was complaining constantly about my job. Actually, I didn't even realize I was doing it, until a friend brought it to my attention. No one wanted to be around me. It sucked. Which, of course, made me feel even more negative. In reality, at that time in my life, I was just an unhappy person. I guess once I was able to fix the unhappiness, the negativity slowly went away....

Instead of being negative, turn it into something positive and MAKE A DIFFERENCE. Life can be unkind and unfair, but listening to you complain, makes MY life unfair. I don't want to hear it. You bring me down. I want to SEE you change things. And if you don't know how to change things, ask, google, bing or yahoo away...there are options out there. And if you STILL can't find your answer, then let it go to life, and move on. 

There's bad stuff happening all around us. It's just a fact. But I, personally, am trying to spread the positivity...I figure, it's the least I can do - and this way, I'm not just harping on the negative people in my world....but trying to help them see the other side. Living in the positive makes everything else around you positive and wonderful! Try it out....you might just surprise yourself!